Let’s Talk About Stress

Sep 29, 2020

The recent social distancing has lead to a sense of loneliness in some resulting in depression, low mood and stress. As humans, we are built for connection and even the introverts can feel the impact the lack of connection has on their mental health.

Stress signals our fight and flight response and releases the stress hormone known as Cortisol into our bodies.

Although Cortisol can have a positive impact on our bodies, too much Cortisol is known to increase the risk of serious health issues such as heart disease, insomnia and diabetes to name but a few. Listed below are 10 simple ways we have the power to reduce stress and bring a practice of creativity, mindfulness and calm to our day.

Movement is the natural way to combat the risks our stress hormone places on our bodies.

What you can do: Go for a brisk walk every day, when you can’t get to a gym dance around your house, put on your favorite playlist and move that body. An alternative to dancing is to do a high impact workout for 20 minutes, there are lots of them on Youtube. Anything that gets your body moving is a great method of combatting the build-up of cortisol in our bodies.

They say laughter is the best medicine and for a good reason. Laughing releases endorphins and increases our immune cells creating a stronger resistance to infection. Laughing relaxes our muscles, improves the function of our blood vessels protecting us against heart disease.

What you can do: Try Laughing Yoga on YouTube! Yes, I did say Laughing Yoga. No equipment needed just some “fake” laughter that will bring you a genuine belly laugh once you get the hang of it. If that isn’t something you are willing to try go to Netflix and enjoy your favourite comedy or watch a comedian perform standup. Soon you will be laughing your way to a healthier you.

It is proven that journaling supports a more mindful and less stressful life. It creates self-awareness, promotes emotional regulation and results in healing of emotional wounding. Journaling helps us plan and create our dreams, explore hope for the future and helps us set intentions for our lives.

What you can do: Start by writing just a few sentences a day on the right-hand side of your journal. If you find yourself staring at a blank page and not knowing where to start it can be as simple as “Today I feel (happy, sad, anxious, excited, encouraged, hopeful, pleased) about ______________.”
Then, each evening on the opposite page write three things you are grateful for before you go to sleep. If you can’t come up with three start with one, guaranteed you will have a long list before you know it. Start with small steps, allow yourself to take it one sentence at a time.

Yoga is proven to reduce muscle tension in our body, relieve stress and calms the central nervous system.

What you can do: There are many yoga classes online try Yoga with Adrienne, one of my favorites, and tailor the yoga class time to meet your time availability so as not to cause undue stress.

For the most part, we do not use deep breathing in our day-to-day functioning. In fact, we resist breathing deep into our diaphragms and hold our breath when we are stressed which results in shoulder, back and neck pain.

What you can do: Use what is known as “Square Breathing”. To square breath:
Take a breath in for the count of 1, 2, 3,4,
Hold for a count of 1,2,3,4,
Breath out for a count of 1,2,3,4,
Hold on empty for 1,2,3,4 counts.
Repeat three times.

This technique will reduce stress, support better sleep, and lower blood pressure to name but a few benefits.

If we were to go inside and examine fear we are experiencing that is causing our anxiety we will most likely find our younger self clinging onto our shirttail looking for some form of reassurance. It is at this time I would ask you the questions When was the last time you spoke to your younger self in a loving way? When was the last time you wrote yourself a love letter?

What you can do: Don’t hold back. Although it may seem corny, write yourself a love letter and include how absolutely amazing and wonderful you are. Take the time to recognize your achievements to date, if you are reading this article then you have survived past stresses and are stronger than you think. It is time you gave yourself some credit for that. Reassure your “Little Self” you have this under control and you will survive this time just like you have survived other times in the past that caused her/him/them fear.

Take a moment to re-parent your younger self and write a beautiful love letter to proclaim just how awesome you are.

In my previous post I wrote about the benefits of sleep and, although it may seem like a difficult time to get any sleep because of our worried minds, I suggest you focus on some bedtime rituals that will help you get the rest you need.

What you can do: Create bedtime rituals such as a warm bath before bed, listening to relaxing music or, my favourite, listen to a sleep story at bedtime. I am not encouraging the use of devices at night but there are some apps you can upload to help you get the much needed 8 hours of sleep. Meditation before bedtime will also reduce stress and promote a good night’s sleep.

#8 BE KIND TO YOURSELF We quite often give ourselves the hardest time and our self-talk is filled with negatives, criticisms, and judgment. Let your critic take a vacation, pack her/him/them off for the next few weeks and get a break from your inner critic.

What you can do: Be kind with your words to yourself. I am a strong believer in self-compassion and the power it has to promote self-care and self-worth. Be your own best friend. If you are giving yourself a rough time ask yourself how it would feel to speak to a friend, a sibling or child like that? You will soon realize the words we use with ourselves are cruel at times and we are worthy of better. Remember the relationship we have with ourselves is the most important relationship we can have and self-compassion is key to positive mental health.

It is important to remember not everyone online is an expert.

What you can do: Less is more. Limit the amount of social media you are digesting each day, ask yourself is this helpful or harmful? Don’t watch the news before bed and be cognizant of where you are sourcing your information.

Finally, if you are struggling please reach out I am accepting new clients and psychotherapy can help enormously with stress reduction and formation of new healthy habits to live a well balanced lifestyle.

Talk soon, Fran.